NEW HAVEN — When Professor Doron Ben-Atar was growing up in Israel, his mother, Roma Nutkiewicz Ben-Atar, seldom spoke of her Holocaust experiences.

When she did start speaking – “some time after the Six-Day War,” reports Professor Ben-Atar — her incredible story filled an entire book, “What Time and Sadness Spared: Mother and Son Confront the Holocaust” (University of Virginia Press, 2006). Now, Professor Ben-Atar has written “Behave Yourself Quietly,” a play based on a moving story from her experience at Auschwitz, which will be performed at the Little Theater in New Haven on April 28 and 29.

The play is sponsored by the Department of Jewish Education, Jewish Federation of Greater New Haven, The Joseph Slifka Center for Jewish Life at Yale, and Fordham University.

Proceeds from the two performances will provide scholarship money to support The March of the Living, which sends high school students from around the world to Poland and Israel. Bi-annually, the Jewish Federation of Greater New Haven sponsors between 30-50 teens to experience the March of the Living.

Ben-Atar learned of the experience that inspired his play when his mother went to Auschwitz again as part of the March of the Living.

On the trip, his mother began speaking of her experiences in various ghettos and camps from age 12 until her liberation. At Auschwitz, she began telling the group about her imprisonment there, at age 16, six decades earlier. As they walked past the bunk where she slept as an inmate, she paused at the latrine and told the group, “This was like our coffee shop…where we could laugh and gossip.”

Prof. Ben-Atar, chair of the history department at Fordham University, member of Fordham’s Middle East Studies and Women’s Studies programs, had never heard that story before, but it made an impression.

“I couldn’t stop thinking about her comment about the latrine-that there was this autonomous place in Auschwitz, where people laughed, gossiped, and bickered,” he said. “I thought about it, wrote, left it, and came back to it – I couldn’t let go of the comment.”

The latrine remark led to Ben-Atar’s play, just over an hour in length, which depicts the lives of three women in Auschwitz in July, 1944. The play takes place against the backdrop of the most dramatic escape in the history of the concentration camp. The three female inmates are startled by the news and react in different ways. The play begins in the women’s latrine and moves through other intimate spaces of existence in Auschwitz.

Director Jane Tamarkin has been working with Ben-Atar on the project from the moment he asked her to read the first draft of the play.

“There was great stuff in it, because he is a historian and a writer,” observes Tamarkin. “It was provocative, and filled with facts, but, as a director, I think about how it can be played. A story can be a great read but not playable.” Ben-Atar accepted some suggestions from Tamarkin and re-worked the script. Tamarkin, who has acted off-Broadway and at the Long Wharf Theater and has taught acting classes and directed productions at the Hopkins School in New Haven for 13 years, then invited several friends from her female choir to read the play aloud. When Ben-Atar decided he was ready to see it on the stage, he invited Tamarkin to be the director. “This was a very exciting process,” reports Tamarkin. “This was not like directing ‘Death of a Salesman’ or ‘Much Ado About Nothing’ — this was brand new. We have been working on rewriting the script and the order of the lines until very recently.”

Tamarkin and her actors and actresses received an unexpected gift one month before the show’s opening. “Doron’s mother was in the States for Passover, and she came to a rehearsal and sat and talked with us for 45 minutes,” Tamarkin said.

Ms. Ben-Atar’s incredible memory for detail helped the actors truly envision the scene from 60 years ago. “There is a scene where clothes are being sorted,” notes Tamarkin. “She walked us through the way it was done. She remembered the exact height of the tables, and the certain way the clothes were folded. It was very moving.”

At the end of the preview, Ms. Ben-Atar, who reports reading the re-written script in one sitting, told the cast that she loved the play, and that it “really moved” and had “a lot of action.”

“My mother is an impressive person,” Prof. Ben-Atar said. “She is brilliant, really an intellectual. And she doesn’t give you standard cliches.”

“Behave Yourself Quietly” will be performed April 28 at 8:30pm and April 29 at 2pm at the Little Theater, 1 Lincoln Street in New Haven. For more information or to purchase tickets, call (203) 387-2424, ext. 310. Proceeds will provide scholarship money to support The March of the Living.

Donations to the March of the Living may be made directly by sending a check made out to “March of the Living,” c/o Ruth Gross, Jewish Federation of Greater New Haven. 360 Amity Road, Woodbridge, CT 06525.

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NEW HAVEN — Dr. Andres Martin, associate professor of child psychiatry at Yale University School of Medicine and medical director of the Children’s Psychiatric Inpatient Service at Yale-New Haven Hospital, credits his mentor, the late Dr. Donald Cohen, with his own decision to become a child psychiatrist.

Now Dr. Martin — along with his colleague, Dr. Robert A. King – have edited “Life is With Others: Selected Writings on Child Psychiatry” by Donald J. Cohen. The book is a sampling of important papers by Cohen, a pioneer in the fields of child psychiatry, autism, and Tourette’s syndrome.

Dr. Martin grew up in Mexico City in a Conservative Jewish family. He completed his medical training in Mexico City, a year of training in internal medicine at Jackson Memorial Hospital in Miami and then a general psychiatry residency at the Massachusetts Mental Health Center in Boston.

Dr. Martin is an associate professor of child psychiatry and psychiatry at Yale, associate training director of the child and adolescent psychiatry fellowship program, and the director of medical studies for the Yale Child Study Center

He lives in the Westville section of New Haven with his wife, Rebecca, and their four young children. He recently spoke to the Ledger about his mentor, Dr. Cohen, and the field of child psychiatry.

Q: You and your colleague Robert A. King have edited a book on Dr. Donald Cohen’s selected writings. Who was Donald Cohen and what were some of his contributions to the field of child psychiatry?

A: Donald was the late director of the Yale Child Study Center. He was a larger than life figure in child psychiatry – not only in New Haven, but around the world. He was one of the towering figures in child psychiatry in the 20th century, and he sadly died at the relatively young age of 61. Robert King and I have been trying to capture Donald’s essence through some of his writings, and to make his teachings and approach known to a new generation of clinicians and scholars.

Donald was a peerless mentor. He had a strong commitment to Israel and was very comfortable with his Jewish self: Judaism marinated all of his life. He dealt with patients in the best Maimonidean tradition of caring deeply for their lives. Like the Rambam, he too was a globe-trotter, equally at ease with princes and paupers, and someone who approached the written text in a profound and loving way – be they holy or technical writings. Donald’s memory lives on, and he remains my main source of inspiration as a physician, an educator, and a father.

Q: Why did you decide to become a child psychiatrist?

A: Actually, I never planned to become a child psychiatrist. I planned to return to Mexico and open a private psychiatry practice serving everyone. I wanted to be well-rounded, so I participated in child psychiatry rotations. During my residency, I met Dr. Donald Cohen and that was the clincher. Now, 95 percent of the patients I see are children.

Q: In what ways is or should the Jewish community be involved in mental health issues?

A: Attention to mental health is as old as we are — Jacob and Sigmund Freud as dream interpreters provide readily recognizable signposts to this passion of ours. At some level, it makes perfect sense for the Jewish community to be very active in mental health initiatives in general, and in those focused on children in particular — We are the People of the Book and have historically been educators. While current psychiatric treatment sometimes involves medication and psychotherapy, the bulk of interventions for such conditions as autism are largely school-based. The school becomes the source of the treatment. While part of the role of psychiatry is to deal with issues of genes, brain imaging and traditional medical approaches, the role of the child psychiatrist and other mental health professionals has a lot to do with education and prevention as well, as exemplified by our routine involvement with parents, with families and communities, or by dealing with neglect, abuse and trauma.

Q: What are some of the “hot” issues and developments in the field of child and adolescent psychiatry?

A: As your readers know from a recent cover story in the Jewish Ledger, autism and Asperger’s are “hot” topics. Juvenile bipolar disorder and suicide are also important issues. There are a large number of children given the diagnosis of juvenile bipolar disorder these days, and all of them no doubt often have serious impairments. One issue we are studying is how to differentiate cases of “true” bipolar disorder (with very specific illness course, genetic loading, brain anatomy, or treatment response profiles), from other forms of serious psychopathology that may represent very different conditions (and entail, for example, a different prognosis or treatment approach).

There has been a lot of attention recently to the safety and risks of antidepressants and questions of whether these medications could contribute to increased suicidality in children. While data show that they may increase suicidal thoughts ever so slightly, the more important public health concern is the effects of having depression go untreated. Untreated depression is a deadly disorder, with significantly associated mortality across the world – especially among young people in their prime (suicide is one of three leading causes of mortality for individuals in their 20’s and 30’s). And so, our primary focus should be on the risks of having depression go undiagnosed, untreated, or insufficiently treated.

Q: You have followed in your mentor, Donald Cohen’s footsteps through your interest and involvement in Israel. Tell us about the field of child psychiatry in Israel.

A: Israel is a country with a very strong group of child psychiatrists and, for a country its size, one that produces a disproportionate amount of research in all areas. Some in Israel are focusing on very narrow fields of psychiatric research (i.e. in an attempt to find certain genes), others are developing interventions, while yet others are taking innovative policy and large-scale public health interventions. In the case of autism and mental retardation, Israel has more of a “cradle to grave” approach than we do: individuals get better coordinated care throughout their lives (including, for example, expensive school placements, adequate living and social support services, etc.

Q: You have been serving as a consultant to Camp Ramah in New England and have been in contact with colleagues serving in this role in other camps. What issues are consultants seeing these days in our overnight campers?

A: We tend to think of the child psychiatrist seeing patients in hospital or office settings. But children tend to spend much larger chunks of time in settings such as school, home and areas that we don’t usually think about-like camp. Camp is a more naturalistic, non-artificial setting for seeing kids, where kids can be themselves-away from their primary caregivers and families. Kids are also testing out their peers, dealing with being away from families, etc. This is growth-promoting, but it can come with speed bumps. Parents may find it reassuring to know that people are watching out for the mental health of their children – just as they know their physical health is being attended to. In a few cases, we do see children at camp with frank psychiatric disorders, such as depression, anxiety, or eating disorders. However, most of the times, such campers are able to receive the necessary help to make for a successful camp experience.

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NEW HAVEN — Thanks to the construction of a new eruv (fence), life just got better for Jews at Yale.

The eruv, which is attached to the eruv which already serves Westville and several other New Haven neighborhoods, will enable Sabbath observers on the Yale undergraduate and graduate campuses and in surrounding neighborhoods to push strollers to synagogue, carry food to friends’ homes, and otherwise enjoy Shabbat with children and friends.

Rachel Novick, a Yale PhD student in ecology and evolutionary biology, said there were “a lot of kids and a very festive atmosphere” at the Slifka Center on Feb. 3, the first Shabbat the eruv was in place. Novick, husband Tzvi (also a Yale graduate student) and six month old son, Aiden, residents of the East Rock neighborhood, were able to be, in Rachel’s words, “part of a social community again.”

“For the last six months, we had been taking turns going to shul – this was our first Shabbat at shul together, as a family – and we went out to lunch at a friends’ house.”

After the second Shabbat of the eruv being in place, Rabbi Jason Rappoport, associate rabbi of the Joseph Slifka Center for Jewish Life at Yale, co-director (with wife, Meira) of the Jewish Learning Initiative at Yale, and himself a Yale PhD student in philosophy, received a letter of praise from a community member: “For the first time since we arrived in New Haven the whole family went to shul and went out to a Friday night meal. Thank you so much for your hard work getting the eruv up.” Sabbath observers will now be able to bring food to people in the hospital, and they can enjoy a picnic on the Yale campus.

Rappoport is also the Rav MaMachsir for the eruv’s halachic committee. In this capacity, he coordinates such halachic matters as arranging consultations and visits with rabbinic eruv experts, training and hiring weekly eruv checkers and contractors (who can fix problems, even at the last minute), and he notifies the community (via hotline and website) of the eruv’s status.

Rachel Novick hopes that having an eruv will encourage people to remain in the community even after their graduate training. Many have left the Yale/New Haven community, or moved to the Westville neighborhood.

Joseph Bartel, a Yale Law School graduate who now lives in Florida but wanted to be a member of the eruv committee and contributor, cautioned, “Now that the eruv is up, and the task of construction is completed, there is still plenty of work to be done raising money to ensure that the eruv is self-sustaining.” Rappoport added, “We need to raise $250,000 to endow the eruv.”

To learn more, view the eruv map, and check on eruv status each week, visit http://www.jli.co.il To contribute to the eruv and to learn about naming/sponsorship opportunities, contact Rabbi Rappoport at jason.rappoport@yale.edu

To check if the eruv is up each week, call 203-387-3897.

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Sundays may never be the same for Florence Katz or Andy Bedford — unless Rabbi Yossi Hodakov of New Haven finds another station to host his weekly radio program.

Rabbi Hodakov’s Jewish Radio Hour, broadcast on WYBC AM for four years on Sunday mornings from 10am to 11 a.m, has come to an end.

“The station is meant to be a training ground for broadcasters,” reports Hodakov, who explained that by law, the station’s broadcasters are given just a four-year, non-renewable contract.

But many listeners from around the state are disappointed that Rabbi Hodakov’s show will no longer be on the airwaves.

Florence Katz, an elderly resident of New Haven’s Tower One, remembers the 50 years when Beryl Howard had a Jewish radio program in New Haven. And she remembers the years when there was no Jewish radio program.

“Then Rabbi Hodakov came,” reports Katz. “Every week he would play beautiful Jewish music, tell us what the Torah portion was about on Saturday, and play the news directly from Israel.”

Katz found his voice to be “smooth and delightful. I’m legally blind-it was good for me! You get used to it. Now, it is not on. It is very unpleasant.”

Dr. Andy Bedford, a Woodbridge gastroenterologist and father of two, also enjoyed “The Jewish Hour,” broadcast.

“What a natural he was on the air,” reports Bedford, who particularly enjoyed the way Rabbi Hodakov, would teach, using examples from the Torah portion, Jewish history and real life. “It is one of his gifts-like a good attorney giving closing arguments and pulling it all together.” Bedford enjoyed the format of the show, with its musical opening, Hodakov’s talk about the weekly Torah portion, his interesting guest, and his sharing “something on his mind.”

Bedford said he looked forward to hearing the news from Israel, and Hodakov’s discussions of such topics as the war in Lebanon.

Hodakov, a Jewish educator and currently a teacher of Jewish Studies and Chasidism at the Southern Connecticut Hebrew Academy and at the Beit Chana Academy, always wanted to host a radio program. He called many stations and was delighted to find the non-profit WYBC.

“To get a program, you have to apply to be a member, undergo training to know how to work all the machinery, and submit a demo show,” reports Hodakov, who notes that WYBC, which mostly features shows by Yale students, is a station where you “come in, and turn the lights on and off yourself.”

Hodakov publicized his shows by emails, word of mouth, and via ads in Jewish publications.

Hodakov talks with great enthusiasm about his loyal listeners.

“There is such a wide range-in age, observance, everything.”

What were Hodakov’s favorite moments?

“The most enjoyable moments were when we had live contact with a fellow in the Old City of Jerusalem on Purim-he was deep in his Purim Seudah (meal) and was talking to our listeners,” Hodakov recalled nostalgically. “And when we had a rabbi who was a New York City police chaplain.” Hodakov was particularly fond of the show’s variety-from music, to interviews, to talk about the Torah portion and upcoming holidays, and the Arutz Sheva hookup from Israel.

“If you listened long enough, you would hear something you liked,” he said.

Hodakov’s fans hope he will be back on the air soon.

“I never missed his show,” said Hayden Leventhal of New Haven. “He spoke a normal person’s language-he spoke my language.”

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